Handstand Breakthrough & 4 Keys to Being Coached

It’s magical!  Suddenly I’ve got a handstand!  That I can control!  That I can do again!

Well, ok, it’s really not magical.  Unless you count a ton of research, a bunch of handstand friends, 3 years of preparation, and 1 kick-ass handstand coach as magic.

7 weeks ago on September 24th I started Kirsty Grosart’s Garage Gym Girl 12 week online handstand course.  It’s always fun and challenging to be on the other end of the coaching relationship but it’s been a long time for me.  I wasn’t sure how it would go and I came to it without strong expectations or goals. It has been three long years of accepting agonizingly slow progress.  So this coaching felt surprisingly miraculously incredibly successful.

But as I know from being a coach – success does not come from a coach’s magic wand.

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As I’ve been coached for these eight weeks, I’ve been reminded of four keys to being coached:

1. Trust and follow the program.
Week one and I was full of doubts and questions.  But if I actually knew better and could get to my goals myself, I wouldn’t have signed up. I chose this program and coach for a reason. It’s ok to ask “why do it this way?” But sometimes you just have to swallow your pride and ego and do what Coach says. Why? Because you already agreed to be coached! So let go of some control and be coachable!

2. Accountability only works when you really want it to.
Sometimes we talk about accountability as if it were magic. Add a dash of accountability and *poof* obstacle vanishes, hard thing done, ta-da! But all too often people say they’ll be accountable and then it just doesn’t happen. Having someone or something to be accountable to doesn’t magically make it easy to do the thing. You have to be ready to really want it to work. You have to want to report failure more than avoiding it.

3. Commit the time.
As long as I’ve made the choice to do the program, I might as well go all in and fully commit.  It’s a sacrifice to all my other training.  I’ve given up swimming entirely.  I run at most twice a week (and it’s suffering).  I’ve gone from training handstands three days to five. I stopped doing the drills and exercises I wanted to do.  I spend time reviewing her program instructions and logging and communicating in her method in addition to mine.  Why pay the money and ask for a coach’s time if I’m not ready to give all the time Coach asks of me?  It doesn’t work if my coach is more committed to the program and my success than I am. I will try to match and raise my coach’s commitment every time. It hasn’t always been easy, but I certainly don’t regret it.

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4. Participate in the coaching.
The less passive it is the better.  I’m not just going through the motions checking off the items.  Self-coach/assess as much as possible and SHARE.  It doesn’t mean I’m not getting what I paid for or letting my coach off the hook.  It means I am getting MORE because my coach has more information and can give me more accurate direction.  I’m constantly coaching myself as far as I’m able, which leaves my coach to unlock the one thing I didn’t see or understand.

I’m so excited for the last five weeks of coaching. It took years of patience to get here, but progress is addicting.

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Claiming the Hidden Wholeness

Client stories – guest post by Devon Anderson.

I do not come to the world of endurance sports training as an accomplished athlete, or as a fit and skinny 20-something.  Instead, I’m coming from the other side, from the second half of life – with retirement on the horizon, a mere decade away.

I’ve never been a team sports person.  I’ve never in my life considered myself athletic.  But the arrival of middle age presents certain splits in the road.  As we experience the first signs of aging, or, in women’s cases menopause, it seems we have a decision to make.  How will we take care of our physical selves?  Not to prevent aging (as if we could ever do that) or pretend it’s not happening.  But how can we live life fully, as whole people, and take care of ourselves so that we are around to enjoy our lives as long as possible?

I began cycling in my 50s. I love the outdoors, and cycling can be very meditative – focusing on breathing and paying attention to what’s around you – how the buds are beginning to open on trees, for example, or how the loons have come back from wintering in the south.  The year I turned 50, I worked with a trainer who helped me prepare for the Red Ribbon Ride, a 4-day, 300 mile ride that benefits 8 HIV/AIDS organizations.  The next year I found Kym Zest, through the Minneapolis YWCA, who built a training plan that would ready me for the RAGBRAI (a six-day ride across Iowa) the following summer.

Both rides were amazing, and I learned an incredible amount – about my capacity, about the building of strength and confidence, about the joy of a body that will work for me if I invest in it.  Even with those early accomplishments, though, I wanted to go both deeper and further.  I wanted to exercise my whole body – not only the muscles used to pedal a bike. I wanted to go deeper by incorporating additional components of physical wholeness – meditation, mindfulness, nutrition, balance and stretch.

I joined Zest Ed because it offered a piece of what I so deeply wanted — not just a service that would design a training plan, but a partnership.  It offered a relationship with an experienced, compassionate, knowledgeable professional who would not only help me train, but teach me components of training — like how to prevent injury, how and when to really rest, how training plans are designed (cycles within cycles) and how to challenge myself without ruining myself.  Zest Ed shifted my athletic training from a process of following, to a process of learning.

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In the end, as I live fully into the second half of life, what I want most is wholeness.  And, as Parker Palmer once wrote, “wholeness is always a choice.”  I choose wholeness in part by training for endurance events.  Not because I want to get a good score or race time, or lose weight (though that would be nice), or prove anything to anyone.  I want, in essence, balance — between work and family, rest and exercise, play and responsibility.  I want a body that feels good and strong and capable, that is up for adventure or the next opportunity around the corner.

The Trappist monk Thomas Merton claimed that “there is in all things…a hidden wholeness.”  That’s the funny thing about wholeness – it’s within us all along, down deep.  Training and exercise, preparing and learning is part of the process of uncovering the wholeness that is already there, bringing it forth, and living into it.

devon profileDevon Anderson has been an Episcopal priest for 21 years and is currently serving Trinity Church in Excelsior Minnesota.  She lives in Minneapolis with her husband and 15-year old son.  Her daughter attends Boston College.  Her family has two dogs, one very bad cat, and three chickens. You can also read Devon’s Zest Ed athlete bio and her “She Shoots! She Scores!” post.  

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She Shoots! She Scores!

Client stories – guest post by Devon Anderson.

I.  Hate. Running.

Well, I’m not sure I hate it, but I’ve never had what I think of as a “runner’s body.”  Running has never come easy to me, which was made even more plain when I married a runner in my 30s.  And not only a runner, but a New-York-Marathon-runner.  For years, no matter how badly I wanted it or how many “couch-potato-to-5-K” plans I tried, I just couldn’t do it.  I’d get too winded.  My feet hurt. My shins screamed for rest.  And I felt like a total idiot — flopping along the city lake paths with my bright red face, breathing like a buffalo, hoping to God no one would recognize me. Continue reading

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Four Lessons One Year In

It’s almost our one year anniversary from the launch of our dream business.  It was quite the journey to get to the starting line. It was two agonizing years of what often felt like going nowhere getting nothing done (Things Not Done – A Story of Progress). But the last 9 months have flown by and my project whiteboard tells the story.

January to March
This was a lot of catching up on the things that hadn’t gotten done before the launch.  And to keep with the theme, 22 things didn’t get done (but 13 of those did get done eventually!)

March to May
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Halloween Buckeye Mutation

They started out so sweet and innocent. Simple homemade peanut butter chocolate candies.  The original recipe (Smitten Kitchen) makes them look so elegant.  image-5But for Halloween 2012, in my hands they developed adorable eyes.   Which was what my original buckeye recipe post showed.  The mutating started very slowly, at first with just a couple developing a simple slit for a mouth. By 2014 they had taken on whole new characters.

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Berry Red Cabbage

It’s good warm or cold.  It’s both summery and wintery at the same time.  Fruity and earthy. Enough for a crowd or leftovers for the week.  I have a yellowed recipe clipping from the Star Tribune.  I’m guessing from around 2007 when I had my own studio apartment and I felt very grown-up having my own newspaper delivered.  I’ve modified it only a little over the years and realized that it is easy to modify and hard to screw up.

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Mango Chicken Curry

This meal that has taken almost ten years of fussing and simplifying to become a regular in my kitchen. It all started January 14th 2008, and I know because the printer put a time stamp on it.

This was during my year of Monday Night Dinners. Every Monday morning I’d call a list of friends and announce “It’s Monday! Are you coming to dinner?”

Then I’d search the internet for cooking inspiration. That Monday at 10:25am I printed a Bon Appetit recipe on Epicurious for Chicken Curry with Dried Apricots. It called for a jar of mango chutney. But I was ambitious so I also printed a recipe from Alton Brown on the Food Network for mango chutney.

In the intervening years I’d occasionally make it with purchased mango chutney. I even blogged about it once before. It was ok, but too simple and not nearly as good as the original. But making chutney separately was too much of an extra step. Now I use fresh mangos in a hodgepodge of a one-pot recipe. It’s way tastier than the purchased version and super flexible with ingredients. I love it.img_0570

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